maybe using the word 'gender" is confusing this. Leave gender identities out of it, men and women are different creatures.David wrote:You can get balance in differing personalities, life skills, interests, temperaments and so on. I don't really see that as being dependent in any way on genitalia and hormones, and it's also quite possible that heterosexual couples like that are not in the majority. Why can't we just say that the ideal is two dedicated, loving parents? Why treat same-sex parents like they're starting with a pre-ordained handicap?stui magpie wrote:gender isn't just a social thing. men and women are chemically and physically different. No amount of social brainwashing will change that.David wrote:Disappointed that you'd take that view, Stui. For me it's 100% about people, not gender..
Each add something different as a parent. I'm not saying 2 guys or 2 girls can't be good parents, they certainly can and would probably be better than single parent families and a lot of traditional families because of the people.
Don't forget, I raised 2 kids as basically a single dad. I've known single mums who were brilliant and i've known some who were utter crap. In that regard it's about people not gender as you say but the best possible result is a good one of each to provide balance.
You might think you're being fair, but imagine if someone said "sure, some interracial couples can be great, but at the end of the day the ideal is two parents of the same ethnicity". And yeah, you know, maybe there are hurdles related to cultural difference, racism and so on. But it doesn't sound great, does it?
You'll constantly hear from single mothers raising boys about the lack of a male role model. It has an impact.
2 loving parents is indeed the ideal, and one of each sex is the best possible arrangement.
I have no doubt that 2 same sex parents would make better parents than a large number of heterosexual parents, maybe even the majority, simply by virtue of the fact that they genuinely wanted children and have had to go to deliberate effort to have them, they haven't just got potted by accident. They wanted to be parents, they made a deliberate decision and they are usually in a financial and emotional good place to raise them.