Age & Love

[tazzies_girl]

How old were you when you had your first serious relationship? I'm 15 and i can see myself going through highschool without having a bf, which i guess im ok with, the only thing is that i dont want to get out of school and be 18 and have my first serious relationship. I've go my eyes on a guy but he's in yr 12, im yr 9, and he'll be leaving school soon, and it'd be to hard to even talk to him! Where do you guys draw the line on age gaps? I'm just looking for an outsider opinion, ne help girls?

[Go_The_Mighty_Magpies]

I'm gunna talk from personal experience.. When I was your age, 15 I had never had a serious relationship until I met my boyfriend, who I did in fact meet when I was 15 but I was in year 10 and nearly 16.

Now the age gap thing didn't bother me too much, he was 19 almost 20 at the time. My mum was a little concerned at first until she met him then she was cool with everything.

2 years later we're still together, I think about what would have happened if I had of let the age gap thing stop me from getting to know him better and I think what I would have missed out on is sad..

So if you really really like someone and you know they feel the same way then don't let it bother you too much, just make sure they aren't going to take advantage of your age and inexperience and don't want to use you for one thing only. If you can find someone genuine it shouldn't matter how old they are.

[tazzies_girl]

thanx Bec thats some good advice

[Hanskies]

No its a) illegal and b) CREEPY!

[i_luv_licca]

Once you are 16 years old, you are allowed to have sexual relations with a person more than 2 years older than you, however if you under 16 years old, it is illegal for you to have sexual relations with someone 2 years older than you.

[Daks]

I'm 18 at the moment and i've been with a 16 year old, but that's legal.

This isn't to say i'd stear clear of 15 year olds, but they'd have to be fairly mature if i was to be in a relationship with them.

I'm still yet to experience a serious relationship and just gave up the girl i could see myself spending the rest of my life with. Serious relationships aren't really anything to be scared of. I was sure i didnt want one, but after being $@&^# around so many times, i think that's what i'm beginning to look for.

[frazwatch]

Well I'm 16 (turning 17 in August) and I still haven't had a serious boyfriend so you're not alone! I don't know why, I just can't see myself with any of the guys at my school. Well, there is one but he likes someone else so that's out of the question.
About the age difference issue, I personally wouldn't go out with a guy older than 18-19 at the moment and I'm really not interested in younger guys (unless they're just a couple of months younger ofcourse)

[foxychick]

It's a question about maturity and how well u get along with the person...it's not like oh i can't wait until i'm this age so that, that's when i'm going to start having a serious relationship...it's about when u feel ready and especially with the person ur with. Relationships are like wine...they improve as time goes by. Even if u have a so called serious relationship starting young..as the relationship increases u grow in maturity. As you grow older what u want in a relationship changes and so does ur mentality I know every year I say to myself i'm more mature than I can ever be with things...then look over the next year to see how things have changed and notice that i wasn't as mature as i thought lol anyway what i'm trying to say is that just go with the flow and see where the river flows to

[Hanskies]

Once you are 16 years old, you are allowed to have sexual relations with a person more than 2 years older than you, however if you under 16 years old, it is illegal for you to have sexual relations with someone 2 years older than you.

Pretty sure its 18!
Like with the sicko's with their pedda kiddy porn of people under 18!
30-16 is such a huge age gap I think! Anyway u look at it its creepy and you'd be wondering why the hell someone of the age of 30 would be looking for relationship wise with a teey bopper!


As for the Yr12/ Yr9 thing!
Its not a huge gap in age differences! 3 years isnt much!
BUT........ coming after one of my male mates being in that situation (him Yr12, her Yr9) Shit we used to give him heaps about it, also for the fact that she was an immature little teeny bopping bitch.
Periodically speaking its only 3 years, but between year 9 and 12 there is a massive difference in maturety levels! --> He'll be heading out clubbing and drinking with his mates without you! And if you tell him not to go out and whatever- long term hes gonna get pissed about it! Like you said, he's leaving school, theres nothing to say he wont be sticking around your area! Alot of people to venture out for work or uni studies!


Not to burst your bubble either but you said you've got your eyes on him what are his feelings towards you, how often do you guys talk that sorta thing! Has he given you any indications that he's keen?

Anyways
Like Foxy said- Relationships get better with age! And in the words of a savage garden song ** **
"You can't appreciate real love 'til you've been burnt"

In my experiences each relationship that you do have, you learn alot of things, things about yourself, about the opposite of sex, as well as things that you do want in a relationship & probably most importantly what you dont want from a relationship!

[i_luv_licca]

well according to www.lawstuff.org.au

Once you are 16, it is LEGAL to have sex with someone over the age of 16, if you both agree to it

[sam.]

I think everyones heard this story.. Haha, back when I was in year 8, I was so obssesed with this guy in year 11, and then when I was in year 9 he was in year 12.. haha i wanted him sooo bad... I used to see him at the footy all the time too, coz he barracked for collingwood.. he knew i loved him too haha.. ooh memories.. he used to play for the same footy club as my younger bro did as well..its still exciting when i see him tho, and i have nooo idea why lol. i saw him in january at the cricket.. i was outside and i turn around and he was there and im liek arghh!!! he was sitting right near me too lol.. and he works at a harvey norman like, 1 min drive away. hahaha
and the age thing? well i was seeing a guy for a few months around this time last year who was a fair bit older, and for the past couple weeks weve gotten together again. im 17, 18 in january.. and hes 23, 24 in novemeber, so its just over 6 years. but yeah, its different cos i know i dont want anything serious with him anyway

[Daks]

and the age thing? well i was seeing a guy for a few months around this time last year who was a fair bit older, and for the past couple weeks weve gotten together again. im 17, 18 in january.. and hes 23, 24 in novemeber, so its just over 6 years. but yeah, its different cos i know i dont want anything serious with him anyway

So you're pretty much **** buddies..

[tazzies_girl]

Thats the thing though, I've never even spoken to him! We've made eye contact a few times and I'm pretty sure he knows i exist. I guess it's probably just a crush or a little fantasy. He's playin footy against my brother on Saturday so i'll get to watch him.
I guess theres not much chance of anything happening so i should drop that idea, i'll just take it on as "a girls allowed" to dream. i think it's just an attraction thing, lust not love. And he's older and gorgeous (2 me, not much my friends) and maybe its just a teenage crush. Its just that everytime i see him or think about him i just smile. Yeah it's just a girly crush, he does have a resembalance to Chris Tarrant, thats probly it. My 2 Obsessions lol! Thanx for talking, i love you guys! I'll keep you updated!

[Nutmeg]

Don't stress about getting a boyfriend. I was 18 before I had a serious relationship - i'd left school and everything. I stayed with him way too long, but hey, it was a learning experience.
Like you, I grew up in country victoria (obviously don't know where you're from, but my town was 3000 population) and the smalltown culture can be stifling in terms of what peopple expect of you. i found that, with such a small population, there just wasn't much to choose from and i chose not to settle.
Age gaps when you're at school feel a lot bigger than they really are. When I was in yr 9, i couldn't imagine going out with a year 12, but my last boyfriend was nearly 5 years older, and the age gap didn't feel that big at all.
The bottom line is, don't freak out about partnering up - there's eleventy squillion other things in the world that are more important.
(Like watching the pies win a flag!!!!!!!!!)

[tazzies_girl]

lol thanx nutmeg! yeah my town has about 5000 i think, im so glad i've got u guys, its been good to have an outside opinion on it!