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Wokko 
Come and take it.
Joined: 04 Oct 2005
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I know that if I was in this situation I'd want the sleeping arrangement to be Kid | Parent | Step Parent but apart from that what can you do? Like stui said, once they're out then put them back in bed but kids of single parents often climb into their parents bed, mine never has but she's slept in her own bed through the night since she was 6 months old; it's going to take some time and patience to ween them off.
As for the lesbian/aboriginal aspect of this I don't see the relevance. I'm not exactly an advocate for same sex parents (that was an understatment), but in the case of a split and new relationship there isn't exactly an alternative besides fighting for custody if there is any abuse/neglect (which doesn't appear to be the case here). |
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Bucks5 
Nicky D - Parting the red sea
Joined: 23 Mar 2002
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You have to wonder what happens when the couple want to get intimate.
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Wokko
Come and take it.
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| Bucks5 wrote: | | You have to wonder what happens when the couple want to get intimate. |
I'm in the early stages of a relationship with a single parent, I'm also one and she's warned me her son climbs into her bed. I haven't met the kid yet but if this happened and I was there I'll tell you what would happen if we wanted to get 'intimate'... we wouldn't and if we we're doing that then the door would be locked.
Luckily he goes to his dad's on weekends and mine goes to her mum's at the same time so as yet it's not an issue. |
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stui magpie 
Prepare for the worst, hope for the best.
Joined: 03 May 2005
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I was a single dad from when my son was 5 and daughter was 3. You'd get the nights when they wake up from a nightmare, that was easy. Cuddle em for a while and put em back to their own bed.
If they wet the bed or threw up, I had zero interest in changing sheets at 2am so I'd just strip the bed, clean them up and let them sleep with me. (my daughter is a PITA to sleep with, don't know how her partner copes)
If you don't let the kid sleep with you on a regular basis there's no problems with intimacy with a partner, If they come in to join you in bed for whatever reason, there's always tomorrow night.
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David 
to wish impossible things
Joined: 27 Jul 2003
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| Bucks5 wrote: | | You have to wonder what happens when the couple want to get intimate. |
It's simply been off the table for us these past few months – we just have to wait until an afternoon when he's in daycare, or else go for the loungeroom while he's taking a nap during the day.
We both want him back in his own bed, but now he's in the habit of sleeping with us it's going to be an ordeal to convince him to get back in his cot. Still, the sooner we bite the bullet and do it, the better.
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think positive
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Joined: 30 Jun 2005
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You said back to his 'cot' yeah? It's nearly his 2nd birthday, how about closing his room for a day, setting up a new big boy bed (with a roll bar if you like!) and bring out the big boy toys everyone gave you for one day? Make it a special surprise cos big boys sleep in their own bed! A superman night light can protect him!
(I always preferred the gentle option!)
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