Deaths from Domestic Violence

[Pies4shaw]

Stop it, roar - you're interfering with the Rhetoric Of Misplaced Angst.

[roar]

I understand that it's hard for blokes to now have to act respectfully or speak up against appalling behaviour just because the lib movement has allowed women to get all uppity.

[stui magpie]

[HAL]

My mental algorithm selected that as the best response to your statement.

[Mugwump]

[think positive]

[think positive]

Interesting questions. I asked my mum about the bloke I was surprised about.

He was about 5'7", red headed builder. His mrs was around (from memory) 5'6" and slim. I was as tall as both at 12, but he seemed bigger.

I asked mum if she knew he hit his mrs and she said probably. She never saw anything but had heard the gossip, but she liked him and felt sorry for him (she couldn't explain why)

My parents used to hang out with them a bit, going over for dinner etc. I didn't know the kids as they went to the local Catholic school and I went to the public school so that made it a bit awkward.

Mum said that after he died of a heart attack, she raised the kids then pissed off to QLD for a while, but went back to Toc for a while years later. Mum bumped into her in the supermarket and they had a good chat, with her reminiscing over the old days. Mum said she never said a bad thing about him, even then decades after his death.

Get a psychologist to figure that out, I can't.

thankyou for answering so clearly and fully.

I think back them it was just the way, you dont complain or air your dirty laundry. I cant imagine my mum ever telling a stranger what had happened to her, and She never really ran him down to us, even after she left. He did and still does, but i really dont give him the chance now, i just cut him short and leave or say bye and hang up! i dont care how old he is, there is never any excuse for his behaviour or attitude. Im only sorry it took me so long to be this strong.

[stui magpie]

Interesting questions. I asked my mum about the bloke I was surprised about.

He was about 5'7", red headed builder. His mrs was around (from memory) 5'6" and slim. I was as tall as both at 12, but he seemed bigger.

I asked mum if she knew he hit his mrs and she said probably. She never saw anything but had heard the gossip, but she liked him and felt sorry for him (she couldn't explain why)

My parents used to hang out with them a bit, going over for dinner etc. I didn't know the kids as they went to the local Catholic school and I went to the public school so that made it a bit awkward.

Mum said that after he died of a heart attack, she raised the kids then pissed off to QLD for a while, but went back to Toc for a while years later. Mum bumped into her in the supermarket and they had a good chat, with her reminiscing over the old days. Mum said she never said a bad thing about him, even then decades after his death.

Get a psychologist to figure that out, I can't.

thankyou for answering so clearly and fully.

I think back them it was just the way, you dont complain or air your dirty laundry. I cant imagine my mum ever telling a stranger what had happened to her, and She never really ran him down to us, even after she left. He did and still does, but i really dont give him the chance now, i just cut him short and leave or say bye and hang up! i dont care how old he is, there is never any excuse for his behaviour or attitude. Im only sorry it took me so long to be this strong.

Cheers

She followed up with a couple more theories after she took time to think.

In this case, she reckons it started after the partnership he had with another bloke broke up and he was reduced to doing odd jobs and drank too much, all of which was after they used to hang out.

The other would be really unpopular. To make some context, she grew up in the bush. Small country towns where people were more status conscious than in feudal England. She also had a dad who never raised a hand to her (or her mother) but would tear apart anyone who said anything bad about her. (no joke. The man was built like a chimp and nearly as strong. One bloke made a blue remark about his daughter in the pub one night and he belted shit out of him and the blokes who tried to stop him. This would have been in the early 60's)

She trusted men and found women to be bitches and can cite numerous examples of women who, if they got belted by their husband, in her mind they bought it on themselves with their behaviour.

I put the counter argument to her about the men who go to work, cop shit all day and take their frustration out on the mrs at night and she did agree. There's also just the fkn bullies like your dad.

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the only thing i disagree with is the brought it on themselves, no one deserves to be punched up by their spouse, or anyone else for that matter. and yes he has always been a bully! i agree.

[David]

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